It has seemed as if we've been waiting FOREVER to bring her home to our family and we really hope that this will be the week we get our State Department of Adoptions appointment. But as I sit tonight and ponder the 4 month mark since we've started this adoption, I realize that even though it feels like it's taking forever... this waiting period will seem like a blink of an eye compared to the Forever Family that we will become to Nadia. And we will be all the more richer from the lessons learned in the waiting and in the new family we are soon to become!
The Unexpected Gifts of Quiet
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Oh, that precious face! It's easy to see why you fell in love with her.
ReplyDeleteAlthough four months is a short time in regular life, in adoption time it seems like an eternity. It's like giving birth to a baby that they won't let you hold or take home from the hospital till you can prove she's really yours.
I pray that soon the whole world will agree that she is forever yours.
Happy belated Mother's Day. I hope you had a happy one.
Blessings,
Kathie
Yes...it will but I know it's still very hard!
ReplyDeleteI can't wait to hear the good news about the appointment and just think how fast it will go once you are there!!!! xo
I can't wait for you to meet her...I am so hoping we get to meet her, too. I just have a sneaky suspicion we will be there together. Perhaps we will meet on the playset :-) ?!?!?!
ReplyDeleteThe wait is similar to labor pain. In the midst of the throws of labor, hours seem like days. But, once she is here, you instantly forget the pain and behold the blessing. (And then, in jubulent joy and profound loss of memory, you elect to do it all over again.)
ReplyDeleteI know it seems like a LONG time, the waiting really stinks. It just feels like it DRAGS on and on.
ReplyDeleteBut you're right, it really is nothing compared to the big picture. And, honestly, once you're home, you forget all about the wait...doesn't really seem like you waited...just all blurs together.
And another thing...
you know how when you were first dating your husband or those first few years together (bear with me here..) you had those 'dreamy' feelings of love that were so strong. And during many many MANY years of marriage, you sometimes (NEED TO) draw back on those dreamy feelings, and it sort of helps you remember why you love this person so much (?) (still with me here?)
Well, I kind of look at the waiting period as something like that. You are falling in love with this little person, longing for her, dreaming of her...making a place for her in your life.
I think you especially need that with an adopted child, because you don't have the pregnancy period to fall in love and dream about her.
Plus, once he/she gets home and REAL life tends to set in...well, those sweet memories of falling in love and how much you longed for her will be a comfort and reassurance.
So it's really a blessing in disguise! Right?!
Make sense?
She's absolutely beautiful!! I I love your perspective on the waiting period as your time to fall in love with your new baby. She's such a blessed little peanut. :-)
ReplyDeleteKeep that positive attitude and the faith. She will be home soon....I like Jodi's comment. It makes a lot of sense, easier said than done though. Just think,it could be 9 months of waiting....for pregers like me. However, I must say, I kind of need that time right now to prepare. Just as you all continue to prepare for dear Nadia. Shall I order her some bows and headbands?????
ReplyDeleteI like Jodi's take on the whole adoption waiting period and comparing to pregnancy and the growing love, what a COOL concept!!---we may never know why you have this long wait, but we just have to trust, cuz it's His way and we know that His ways are perfect! Having said that, I am still SO impatient and want you to have her home now!! :) Can't wait to squeeze those chubby bunny cheeks!!
ReplyDeleteCant wait to hear you have your appt. maybe you can hug on my sweetie while you are there ? Jodi's take is right on too...you need that time to fall for and long for your little one :) even though it sure is tough!
ReplyDeleteI never realized its already been 4 months since your commitment! At least you dont have to wait for a year like some adoptions... You are A-L-M-O-S-T there!!!!!! YIPEE!!!!! I want my cousin and I KNOW u want your daughter!! Hope the adoption agency gives you your date this week!!!
ReplyDeleteGreat perspective. Once she is home, it will not matter how long you had to wait. You will have the rest of your lives together. While I was waiting for Abbey (18 months), Scott Griswold told me, "The longer the wait, the bigger the blessing God has in store for you."
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